Curiously enough, it's been my experience (and a couple of good friends have said much the same thing) that in real life, people have been very respectful about this. The conservatives I know haven't been gloating to me, nor have I heard anyone in real life tell someone to "stop whining."
All bets are off, though, when someone is hiding at their keyboard. Can we try to show a little respect? I remember crying at a good friend's funeral. No one was so callous as to tell me to "suck it up and be a man." When a friend of mine lost her job and was crying miserably, I didn't tell her to "grow up." When a couple I know recently put down their cat and were mourning, I didn't say "it's just a cat." Were any of those things said, the person saying them would be rightly deemed an asshole.
The Web seems to bring out the worst in people. Many have no compunction about saying stuff like this while sitting safely at their computer, secure in their anonymity. I know it's asking a lot of many who use the 'net, but for the love of whatever you hold dear, be respectful about this and let people grieve.